Surviving The 1st Trimester





 

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Hello beauties! Guess what? I survived the 1st trimester! If you’ve ever been pregnant, you know that this is one of the toughest trimesters. Many women aren’t honest with each other about their feelings, experiences, and struggles during the absolute most vulnerable and scary time in their journey through motherhood. I’m am not one of those women, grab some popcorn & enjoy the ride, here’s my 1st trimester story.

Picture a wild night out with your girlfriends, & somehow you end up taking one too many vice bombs. How you wake up the next day, that is exactly how your entire 1st trimester feels. LOL! Hungover for an entire 3 months! But the jokes on you because you didn’t even party. The never ending nausea & vomiting was terrible. I wish I can say it was just in the morning, but nope! All day! They say: make sure you’re always eating, have crackers, something sour works, ginger ale will be your best friend…none of that worked for me. I couldn’t eat because of nausea, & I was nauseas because I couldn’t eat- the irony! What did work for a little was taking my prenatals just before bed with an extra dose of vitamin b. That only alleviated the morning sickness, after a few hours the nausea would strike again for the rest of the day though. One day I was driving to the grocery store & had to stop the car in the middle of the street because I puked in my hand. It sounds terrible, but it meant my baby was growing strong & healthy, so I took it like a champ! S/he will hear all about this!

Why didn’t anyone tell me I wouldn’t ever poop? & when you do it’s as if you were dropping rocks. So very painful! I had to take extra fiber just to use the bathroom at least every 2 days. & I dreaded every moment that I had to. Blame that for all of the bloating! 

Ohhh, the breast tenderness! How I wish my boobs were much smaller. Getting up in the morning & letting gravity take over was hell! I literally would hold them up & slowly release them as they got easier to drop. Showering (if you have as great water pressure as I do), I couldn’t even let the water hit them directly. LOL! I had to splash myself. Bralette’s with a bit of support will be your “breast friend!” Step aside, cute regular bra’s, this is no job for you! As for your nipples, remember looking at the women in National Geographic in horror? Well, welcome to their club! Your nipples have somehow doubled in size, & darkened. They’re also terribly sensitive, & not in a good way. My husband’s not getting anywhere near these for a whiiiiile!

The first trimester also comes with terrible lower back pain & cramping. Get yourself the pregnancy pillow asap, because it makes a world of difference. I would take down the couch cushions & make myself the comfiest bed on the floor. Slept there for weeks! I would also stretch A LOT! It’s an immediate relief to any pain.

I already have an issue with sinus infections; especially in the winter, thankfully I haven’t gotten any this year. A stuffy nose is another annoying pregnancy  symptom. It doesn’t help that it is winter & the air is so dry. I can’t wait to breath normal! The boogers in my nose come out the size of Puerto Rico, who knew my schnoz could hold something that big? Using a humidifier at night makes it a bit easier to sleep & steam showers as well.

Then theres the fatigue. I was always so tired & it was the last thing I could be, nannying two crazy babies. Thankfully, they were still on 2-2hr naps a day, so I got to snooze sometimes. As soon as I got home from work, I would go straight to bed. Forget cooking, I was too nauseas to do that! LOL! It’s amazing how exactly a few days after starting the 2nd trimester, I was hit with a sudden burst of energy! Bam, ready to slay pregnancy!

I neglected my poor husband! I love him sooo much, but I sure didn’t show it. LOL! Sometimes he’d want to cuddle & I was just feeling so blegh, having our arms touch was enough for me. My pregnancy pillow was getting more action than him. He was such a trooper though!

I remember saying “I’m just waiting for the beauty of pregnancy to hit…” It hits every time you get to see your baby on that ultrasound. Every time you hear that heart beating. & now, every time I feel those sweet little flutters in my belly. However tough pregnancy may be, those sweet moments make it all worth it. Mommy will take all the beatings, just to keep her baby growing strong & healthy!

Yours Truly- Yaniris

 

I Do: Year 1

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FullSizeRender 50If this is supposed to be the hardest year of our marriage, than we passed with flying colors! ? This first year of marriage has been wonderful for us; an easy transition into Mr & Mrs life! 

What most people don’t realize is that by the time we got married, we had been together for 6 years- 3 years of that actually living together. I know that man like the back of my hand, & vice versa! Now, ask us how our first year of dating was? Idk how the heck we made it out alive that first year! ? 

I’m an avid supporter in NOT rushing things when it comes to relationships for that reason. It makes our marriage that much more special that we know each other so well, that despite the ugly, we still chose forever together. Now, I’m not saying we won’t change throughout time, because everyone does; but, the vow we made to stick by each other through it all, is what keeps us going. You will have disagreements- learn from them. Respect each other through them too! 

People really have trouble with the finances part of marriage. It’s not that hard, provided you both have good paying jobs. The money is everyone’s; the decision on how we spend & save is also everyone’s too, & the debts are now shared. For us it’s simple: pay the bills, then save a good chunk of that paycheck (make monthly/yearly goals together & crush them), then literally eat the rest of it! Lol! I know you feel me when I say a lot of money goes into feeding our bellies! I have a shopping problem, but I cure it by busting my butt with two jobs. Hehe! As long as I’m never short on my end, there’s no problem. But, you best believe that every time I get a UPS package my husband literally kicks it through the door, “Ohhh, here’s some more crap you don’t need!” ??  Very important: get life insurance policies! It’s terrible & sad to think about, but you never want to burden your spouse with debt, god forbid anything happens. 

I’ve mentioned before, have your hobbies together & separately. Your husband is an extension of you, not your whole life! Sometimes I don’t feel like watching Love & Hip-hop; he’ll be in the sala watching, TV, I’ll be in our bedroom binge watching Grey’s, or something he equally hates! Haha! Same thing with making sure you maintain your friendships outside of your marriage! You don’t want to be the friend who drops off the face of the earth, once you got married! Your boo can handle himself for a few hours.

& my favorite part of it all, still date each other! They don’t have to be lavish or often, but just make sure that at least one night out of the week is a little more special than the others. One of our favorite things to do is dress up our kitchen like a restaurant (I’m not going to lie, it just so happens to be decorated in that theme), cook the hell out of an amazing dinner-I’m talking going all out just for a meal together at home. It’s so much fun. Even better, no need to drive back home with a food coma- just walk on over to the couch!

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If your mindset is: “I hope this lasts forever,” there’s a problem! “This IS forever” should be your mindset! It’s OK to feel like you want to strangle your spouse sometimes, just as long as you don’t actually do it. ?

Yours Truly, Yaniris

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“& then we continued blissfully into this small, but perfect piece of our forever.” ❤️ 8/22/15

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